Ellie Kay
Neurodiversity Specialist
ADHD/AuDHD Coach, Trainer,
Speaker & Workplace Mediator
*I have places for Access to Work Clients*
About & Approach
I’m Ellie Kay, ADHD and AuDHD coach, speaker and neurodiversity specialist trainer and mediator.
I work with women who have spent years doubting themselves, feeling like they should be coping better, when actually no one ever showed them how their brain works.
At 45 I received a late ADHD diagnosis that finally made sense of a lifetime of intense highs and lows. It helped me move from frustration, guilt and shame to self compassion and, in turn, self worth.
I’m also married to an autistic man who thrives on routine and predictability, has strong special interests and a natural ability for pattern recognition. That lived experience gives me a real understanding of how different brains work together, and helps me support my AuDHD clients in making sense of themselves in a practical, grounded way.
I understand how neurodiversity shows up at work too. I’ve built and scaled multiple businesses and employed many neurodivergent people, so I’ve seen both the strengths and the challenges first hand.
I’ve also had life experiences that have pushed me to face self doubt head on and lean into resilience.
At 29 I was diagnosed with cervical cancer, which left me infertile.
In 2011 I appeared on BBC One’s The Apprentice, where I was under intense scrutiny from Alan Sugar and millions of viewers. That experience taught me more about self doubt and resilience than any qualification ever could.
All of this, both personal and professional, shapes how I coach, speak, train and mediate today.
I don’t believe resilience is about pretending things are easy. It’s about understanding yourself properly, staying steady under pressure and choosing to keep moving forward.
I don’t do theory. I help you understand your brain and actually change how your life feels
The Three Pillars That Guide My Work:
1. Changing the View on Neurodivergence
Moving the conversation away from ADHD/AuDHD being a deficit and moving it more towards a strength. I work with organisations to help them understand neurodiversity better, so talented neurodivergent people are not misunderstood, pushed into burnout or drawn into unnecessary grievance or disciplinary processes.
I also support individuals to accept and lean into their brains, focussing on their strengths while building support around the areas that feel harder. When people understand themselves, performance improves as shame reduces.
2. Conversation Not Conflict
Most workplace conflict is not about bad intent. It is pressure, assumption and different communication styles colliding.
I help teams replace judgement with curiosity and create space for honest conversation before issues escalate. When people feel heard and understood, trust builds and tension reduces.
3. Reducing Self Doubt and Building Resilience
Impostor syndrome thrives in silence. Through speaking, coaching and mediation, I help people normalise self doubt, navigate pressure and develop steadiness under stress. You only get one life. Living it constantly questioning your worth limits potential. Building resilience changes how you lead, work and live. I am here to help you make this transformation.
Let’s Work Together
Businesses
Keynotes. Management training. Team workshops. Workplace mediation. Leadership coaching.
If you want to get neurodiversity right and unlock performance, I can help.
ADHD and AuDHD Women
One to one and group coaching to help you understand your brain, build confidence and create a life and career that stops you from having to mask.